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I was spanked as a child, usually with my fathers belt. It was not offen if it was something small that I did I was usually sent to my room. It's funny now that I'm older there have been times that my cousin and I were out shopping and a kid is having a fit over not getting something in a store and we both look at each other thinking and sometimes saying if that was us we would of got spanked. But at the same time as a kid I knew better then to act that way and I think it was the way I was raised. You never talked back to an adult. I have two small child and I use time out for the small stuff and once in awhile there is a spanking. I think the problem is when parents get to upset and a spanking turns into a beating. Growing up my father re-married and spanking was still used however my step mother would slap us across the face and with braces it would put cuts in our mouths then she would order pizza or make something like pasta that would hurt the inside of our mouths and bring tears to our eyes. I find that to be worse then a spanking because it would take forever to heal. Parents don't realize one statement can change a childs life and crush their dreams. Growing up I had always wanted to be a vet and didn't question that one day I would be. Until, one day we were sitting at the dinner table and my brother was talking about his future and I spoke up and say I'm going to be a vet, my step mother looked at me and said you'll never be a vet. I was crushed!, to this day it's a dream of mine still but because of her statement I doubt myself. I will NEVER make a statement like that to my child, my son is 4 and when he grows up he wants to be a soccer goalie, I tell him he can be anything he wants to be and will continue to believe in him.
"If children only make good decisions because they are afraid of getting caught, they will just get better at being deceptive." I can confirm that in myself. I would do anything it takes to avoid getting spanked. Even deny having done something.
I was spanked when I was younger and I am still getting spanked at my age. I'm 15 by the way and I'm not from america though. I'm from the caribbean. I'm from jamaica. My mother and father loves me and I know that when they beat me its out of love. Spare the rod and spoil the child is what the bible says and I believe the bible to be true (kjv). Its god's word. When I grow up spanking won't be my only alternative to disciplining my future children. I will love my kids but if they do anything too out of line. I will spank them. Alleast in the caribbean we don't have the government on our ass like america. the caribbean government agrees to spanking and even they do it too. U will never see in the papers that a child killed another child unless when they get a background check. Their parents didn't care about them. We don't have children killing parents here. That's incredibly rare. All u see in the papers is adults creating violence. Spanking is not a major problem here. But music is.. Dancehall,soca,parang, and all those types hip-hop, rock and roll especially and also carnival. If people listened to good music like mozart and some nice gospel. Our thoughts even though sinful would be more controllable. Cause those bad music influences disrespect,anger,violence,malica and lots more. Like for instance, we have a dancehall singer called vybz kartel (gaza emporer) he says if yuh a informa (tattle-tale) yuh get gunshot. Now if u put that in a child's mind. What would happen?. Hip-hop. These guys talk about how there girfriend cheating on them(dueces) and how all girls are bad and they just cheat and are heartless and that us boys should just use them.PUT THAT IN A child's mind and ull now why thet keep grabbing girls ass. They hear the music in almost everywhere. Technology is rapidly increasing and I think if u don't put ur upmost care in ur children. They will become stubborn. Don't focus on the form of discipline but what is causing the rebellion in the first place. Thank you
Jeff, I appreciate your comments about spanking. I think there are more effective punishments for *most* children. I tried to use other punishments to discipline my three children. What I learned the hard way is that there is no magic bullet. There is no "one size fits all" when it comes to a discipline technique that works with children. I could discipline my daughter by literally by looking at her in a disapproving way. My oldest son was truly a sweet, helpful child with a heart of gold. There was rarely a need to discipline him at all. My middle son was a different story. We moved twice while he was in his formative years and maybe that played a role. However, we had to deal with a lot of disrespect and him getting in trouble with the law. When we felt we exhausted other methods, we spanked. I don't regret it. Spanking seemed to get his attention in ways other correction did not. Only a hand was used and when it was something serious his pants were taken down. If I go by his behavior after he was spanked it was one of the more effective things we did. My kids have now grown up and are pursuing successful adult lives. I'm sure we made mistakes as parents. However, my biggest criticism is saying that you should never spank a child. I just don't believe that.
Finally, the associations reported in the meta-analysis between spanking and negative outcomes did not control for the potential mediating effects of other variables, which raises the chicken-or-egg question: Are kids spanked because they act out or do they act out because they are spanked—or both? (Even longitudinal studies don’t completely resolve this problem, because behavioral problems may worsen over time regardless of spanking’s effects.) To rule out the possibility that spanking is only associated with bad outcomes because poorly behaved kids are the ones getting spanked, researchers can use statistical methods to control for the influence of temperament and preexisting behavioral characteristics—but these methods are difficult to employ in meta-analyses, and the new analysis did not attempt such a feat. Ferguson did try to control for the effects of preexisting child behavior in a 2013 meta-analysis he published of the longitudinal studies on this issue; when he did, “spanking’s effects became trivial,” he says. As a further demonstration of the importance of careful statistical controls, Robert Larzelere, a psychologist at Oklahoma State University, and his colleagues reported in a 2010 study that grounding and psychotherapy are linked just as strongly to bad behavior as spanking is but that all the associations disappear with the use of careful statistical controls. It makes sense that disciplinary tactics used as responses to bad behavior will be associated with such behavior, Larzelere says, unless care is taken to control for children’s preexisting characteristics and temperaments.
A pencil sketch of a girl getting a spanked bottom.
Getting spanked just that one time may not affect a child's relationship with their parents, but it may still be remembered and resented, Holden added.
